WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE A PARENT?

Do you think having children is the next thing to do after concluding your formal education and getting married? Do you think you need to have biological children to feel fulfilled and be happy? Do you also think you need children to carry on your legacy, and inherit your name, fame and fortune? 

If you have based your desire to have children on any or indeed all the above, please think again and consider that the questions posed here must be answered by anyone who is independent minded and inwardly free, who takes life on earth seriously and do not wish to live his life on frivolous grounds or live just solely in accordance to the customs and traditions of his environment. We must ask ourselves these questions before taking on the duty of parenting and keep them  in mind even as we continue the work of parenting.

If we consider in brief how children come to us, perhaps it will lead us to a new way of thinking about this matter. From the moment you and your partner seek a child and engage in an act of reproduction, you have thrown out an invitation to the many souls in the beyond ready and waiting to reincarnate on earth! These souls at times come with heavy baggage from their past lives that may later affect even the lives of the parents!  If we are careful and proceed prayerfully in this important matter, we can have a say in the type of child that will be attracted to us. Of course, Nature’s Law of attraction of all that are similar also play a part in determining the nature of the soul that will be incarnated into families.

Having said these, let us go straight into the valid reason for taking on this blessed role of parenting. The right reason for parenting can be found when we first understand the purpose of life on earth. The purpose of life on earth is simple: we are incarnated on earth in order to awaken spiritually and through experiencing here to grow from spirit seed to fully matured human spirits! Subsequent reincarnations offer us the opportunity to atone for our past misdeeds, cast off old faults and to mature further. All of these are achieved by coming to know, understand and live in accordance with the laws of God! It follows therefore that we should only seek to bring children into this world when we are willing to take on a strange human spirit into our family as a permanent guest, and willing to give the child the opportunity on earth to atone and to mature. That is the valid reason. All other reasons are beside the point and cannot replace the main reason.

May we be able to raise children not just to satisfy ourselves and our empty purposes but to raise them such that they too will come to understand the purpose of existence and live to the honour of the Lord Almighty!